This Post Is Not About You (Unless It Is)
One of the things I have learned in my adult life is that not all friends are meant to be forever friends. Sometimes relationships are fleeting. Sometimes you realize that the things you dislike about someone are greater than the things you like. You balance this, try to decide if the relationship is worth the effort. If you’re me, you’ll keep digging – looking for the good, you’ll probably think to yourself 46 times how this is not bringing any value to your life, but you let it go on for one reason or another. Them’s the breaks.
When I write about being a better person this is not some magical place of perfection where only I exist. I understand that everyone doesn’t see the world through the same set of eyes as I do. I try to be kind, gentle, give people the benefit of the doubt but sometimes it just isn’t enough – sometimes this is of my own doing.
I have to keep reminding myself that while people really believe that they want honesty in their relationships, they are quite often, not ready for truths. People = me and you, your mama and your cousin too.
I also want to be responsible for my actions and my words so when I speak, I want it to be (THANK YOU, Julio!) with intention and purpose. I want my words to carry feelings and hopefully never be misconstrued. And, in the offhand that they are – I always want to be prepared to clarify them and accept fault, because I can’t imagine that putting your foot in your mouth is comfortable or actually tastes good.
Communicating is an art, a very delicate one – but being able to communicate effectively? It’s so worth the effort. I promise.